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]]> By: Robo http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/comment-page-1/#comment-41262 Robo Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:08:52 +0000 http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/#comment-41262 This is a very bad book to be on the selves. This is probably the most noneducational book on abuse there is. I'd suggest going to a local abuse shelter if you actually want to learn something about abuse. That would probably be much more educational than buying something cheap on amazon from someone who's obviously uneducated on this issue. <br /> <br />If you view the contents of the book and look at pg.24, then you can read for yourself how it implicitly assumes women are always right no matter what. On one hand, the man is wrong because he doesn't understand what the woman is talking about ("He has no idea what you're talking about when you try to discuss the issue with him".), and on the other, the man is wrong because she doesn't know what he is talking about("He is angry with you... you are surprised each time.") <br /> <br />Furthermore, what the author is mostly talking about is stonewalling. Stonewalling is not verbal abuse: stonewalling is one form of emotional abuse but its not verbal. Also note that wanting to invade another person's privacy (physical, emotional or mental) can also qualify as abuse. <br /> <br />The list on the page potential buyers are allowed access to is highly vague and abstract. In fact, its actually sown out of the same tactics used by verbal abusers themselves. <br /> <br />For example, as you read the list you start saying to yourself, "does my life really have to revolve around this person? I'd like to please them, but their personal demands are very extreme." <br /> <br />Finally, the simple fact about abuse is that most abusers make excessive demands on their significant other. Think about that while reading this book. <br /> Rating: 1 / 5 This is a very bad book to be on the selves. This is probably the most noneducational book on abuse there is. I’d suggest going to a local abuse shelter if you actually want to learn something about abuse. That would probably be much more educational than buying something cheap on amazon from someone who’s obviously uneducated on this issue.

If you view the contents of the book and look at pg.24, then you can read for yourself how it implicitly assumes women are always right no matter what. On one hand, the man is wrong because he doesn’t understand what the woman is talking about (“He has no idea what you’re talking about when you try to discuss the issue with him”.), and on the other, the man is wrong because she doesn’t know what he is talking about(“He is angry with you… you are surprised each time.”)

Furthermore, what the author is mostly talking about is stonewalling. Stonewalling is not verbal abuse: stonewalling is one form of emotional abuse but its not verbal. Also note that wanting to invade another person’s privacy (physical, emotional or mental) can also qualify as abuse.

The list on the page potential buyers are allowed access to is highly vague and abstract. In fact, its actually sown out of the same tactics used by verbal abusers themselves.

For example, as you read the list you start saying to yourself, “does my life really have to revolve around this person? I’d like to please them, but their personal demands are very extreme.”

Finally, the simple fact about abuse is that most abusers make excessive demands on their significant other. Think about that while reading this book.

Rating: 1 / 5

]]> By: Miffed http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/comment-page-1/#comment-41261 Miffed Tue, 09 Feb 2010 15:10:47 +0000 http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/#comment-41261 After my wife read this book, she accused me of everything in it. I will admit some observations had merit, but by and large this book is a crock! In the old days, we would say that it is defense for the verbally unprepared and poorly trained. But in this era of the Universal Victim, there MUST be a reason for every outcome. <br />If the author turned around her argument to say that women are poorly prepared to defend against verbal attack and to use their verbal skills more accurately and intelligently, she would get sued! Yet that is what she shows in supporting her case again and again. Rarely is the man verbally abused and rarely are the women capable. <br />This book is a total crock. I saved my marriage by discrediting the witch who wrote it Rating: 1 / 5 After my wife read this book, she accused me of everything in it. I will admit some observations had merit, but by and large this book is a crock! In the old days, we would say that it is defense for the verbally unprepared and poorly trained. But in this era of the Universal Victim, there MUST be a reason for every outcome.

If the author turned around her argument to say that women are poorly prepared to defend against verbal attack and to use their verbal skills more accurately and intelligently, she would get sued! Yet that is what she shows in supporting her case again and again. Rarely is the man verbally abused and rarely are the women capable.

This book is a total crock. I saved my marriage by discrediting the witch who wrote it
Rating: 1 / 5

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/comment-page-1/#comment-41260 Anonymous Tue, 09 Feb 2010 13:22:16 +0000 http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/#comment-41260 Like somebody's dissertation. Rating: 3 / 5 Like somebody’s dissertation.
Rating: 3 / 5

]]> By: nosuchthingasordinary http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/comment-page-1/#comment-41259 nosuchthingasordinary Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:24:31 +0000 http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/#comment-41259 could ever need to build a solid case against her husband or any other man. Would strongly recommend to any woman seeking to end a relationship. The book provides example after example of ways in which any ordinary verbal expression may be used against your man. You will come away with a renewed sense of self and a solid justification for divorce. After reading this book, you too will agree with the many many others like yourself, that men are the living incantation of evil upon the earth. Rating: 5 / 5 could ever need to build a solid case against her husband or any other man. Would strongly recommend to any woman seeking to end a relationship. The book provides example after example of ways in which any ordinary verbal expression may be used against your man. You will come away with a renewed sense of self and a solid justification for divorce. After reading this book, you too will agree with the many many others like yourself, that men are the living incantation of evil upon the earth.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> By: Anonymous http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/comment-page-1/#comment-41258 Anonymous Tue, 09 Feb 2010 12:16:08 +0000 http://onlineflirtingtips.com/the-verbally-abusive-relationship-how-to-recognize-it-and-how-to-respond/#comment-41258 Ms. Evans makes an observation that the verbally abusive relationship lacks characteristics of mutuality and respect. This being true, I submit that a woman in such relationship is engaging in disrespectful behavior. Be it premarital sex, doing more than one's share of chores, serving to please the man, enabling his bad behavior, allowing the abuse, a man will treat a woman the way she "asks" to be treated. In the perpetrator-victim-rescuer triangle, Ms Evans will serve as your favorite rescuer if you wish to stay stuck. Otherwise... chunk this book, start acting like a lady, serve God and God alone, and your man may very well surprise you. Maria S. Atlanta, GA Rating: 2 / 5 Ms. Evans makes an observation that the verbally abusive relationship lacks characteristics of mutuality and respect. This being true, I submit that a woman in such relationship is engaging in disrespectful behavior. Be it premarital sex, doing more than one’s share of chores, serving to please the man, enabling his bad behavior, allowing the abuse, a man will treat a woman the way she “asks” to be treated. In the perpetrator-victim-rescuer triangle, Ms Evans will serve as your favorite rescuer if you wish to stay stuck. Otherwise… chunk this book, start acting like a lady, serve God and God alone, and your man may very well surprise you. Maria S. Atlanta, GA
Rating: 2 / 5

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