So here it goes, i’m sort of dating this 30 year old guy and im 19. we’ve been going out from time to time for a couple of months now. when we’re out on a date, i’d always catch him staring at me, he’d make silly jokes, he’d sing songs to me, we talk but there would still be a lot of silent moments… sometimes he’d buzz me at YM but there’d be days when he’d ignore me but when i’m the one IM him, he’d talk endlessly…he seem to like me but then i wonder why he doesn’t have the guts to ask me out. it’s usually me who asks him out (of course he always say yes). i dont know, i guess im just getting tired of always being the one to take the initiative.. so any advice on dating older men?? he’s just so hard to figure out..:(
thank you in advance to all who will give me their insight.. thanks a lot..
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what 30 year old instant messages people? honey that is gross and illegal to date someone when you are still a minor.
WOW
we don’t like being tied down… u are only 19 years old, the reason why we even get with a girl your age is just so we can get some young pu$$y. he doesn’t want to seem like a perverted jerk if he is always asking you out. maybe he feels that you like it when you ask him out, or maybe he likes that.
He is 30 and single. So he is probably painfully shy and has no idea how to get things started and he may feel a little weird dating someone 11 years younger than him. I’d say ask him out again and have a serious conversation with him. You may have to take the initiative a few more times to get im on the ball.
He probably thinks you are cute, that’s why he ’s accepting your invitations, but that’t about it. When a guy really likes you, he will do anything to get you. Sorry…
First, Metsgirl: she’s not a minor. She is 19.
I’d say just keep your options open & see if he makes a move if you don’t make a move for a while. Keep dating other people since you and this guy aren’t together. Don’t let this bring you down, plenty of other guys out there for you!
Be realistic and not pessimistic! the guy is too old for you.
older men is it well let me tell you some thing i am 21 and im engaged to a 45 year old. older men are harder to figure out then younger men but you will get it sooner or later.but one word of advice they are alot shyer and most of the time you will always have to make the first move because thay thank you out of their leage.
i am 62 so not sure my insight will be good for you, but it will be safe.
Is he single? If not, QUIT right there and be no more than friends. If he
is free, you need to find out how free. he may be involved in a failing
relationship…..some days go well, some don’t. He may, like me, just
want to be sure that you know what you’re getting into… like older
oriented circles of friends etc. You may go places in an exclusive
relationship that might make you feel out of place or uncomfortable
in other ways. When all the guessing wears on you, sit him down
for a heart to heart… and ask. Good Luck. Love, Ray
okay. now my comment is this. I think that dating older man is not realy a thing. cuz if u think u like him n he likes u. so what? Just dont care about other people opinion. Love is blind, remember?
Being an older guy who has dated a younger woman I can tell you I was sorta the same way the first time. There was two things that bothered me about it. Not really bothered me but had me kinda frozen at times.
One, I had no idea what she saw in me? Why was she interested? Made me selfconscious, I worried about her motives. And of course the whole stigma of it. I was not willing to forget the age difference.
Two, I was like a school boy. She was the type of girl that wouldn’t even talk to me in high school, I was scared, excited, afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing, etc.
In the end I let my guard down. Got hurt, remained in touch with her and now we are married. She was 19 when we met and I was 27.
Keep after him, good luck.
The first things you need to ask yourself is, Is he the one I really want to spend my life pursuing? Are you not attracting guys closer to your own age or does the idea of getting an older guy excite you? Could it be he may be somewhat embarrassed asking you out? Would he enjoy taking you home to meet his family, without him feeling uncomfortable about the age difference? Do you know if he’s dating other women? You need to honestly answer these questions before exploring this situation further. The maturity difference between a 19 year old and a 30 year old is huge. If you feel that he is Mr. Right, tell him straight up how you feel. I’m sure he would appreciate it more than you know. I know I would. Good luck…